
15 May “She will be more than our daughter -in-law, she will be our daughter” – An Irony
“She will be more than our daughter-in-law, she will be our daughter” – An Irony
“Hum toh ise beti bna ke rakhenge”
What does this mean?
Would a daughter-in-law be asked what she wants to eat? Will her tea be served in bed? Only a mother does this. Will the girl be treated like this in her husband’s house?
It’s a big ‘NO’.
There’s a reason why women are often advised, at an early age, to adjust, learn to cook and give in demands of their in-laws. It’s because this is what they will have to face later.
True that Indian Supreme court has taken steps in support of daughters-in-law but do we see it in practical application? Certainly not! India is a really tough country for daughters-in-law.
Yes, it happens in today’s modern society that daughters-in-law face such difficulties.
There are some social ills that are mainly responsible for daughters-in-law to be in trouble every now and then:-
1. It is quite obvious that a girl will take time to adjust to a new home. It may take a few months or years but our Indian society expects her to adjust within a few days. This often leads to anxiety or depression in women.
2. Now comes the main social evil: ‘Dowry system’. In modern Indian society, daughters-in-law are always obliged with money and property, which sometimes brings fatal consequences.
3. Parents-in-law, often practice ‘Blood is thick than water’ concept. In other terms, I say they always prefer their own son and daughter. As a result, a bride has to face comparisons between her and her sister-in-law.
4. The ‘Obvious’ word. Many husbands don’t interfere in their matters. 50% of the husbands understand the complications and manage, but what about the other 50% of husbands and the girls married to them? Many of them don’t understand the emotional and social perspectives and complications their wives have to go through.
These factors create turbulence between a daughter-in-law and her new family. Sad but true! It’s time to take active steps, on governmental as well as on personal level, to change this sad reality.
Vijayaswathi
Posted at 06:54h, 15 MaySo true..
Subrata
Posted at 08:21h, 17 MayBfully written
Shivali Mehta
Posted at 04:46h, 01 JulyReality of Society