09 Aug The fear factor of female: Ageing
While women are always criticized for failing to accept ageing gracefully, the attitude of people around them doesn’t make the task any easier.
It is sarcastic that while public love joking about how grumpy women become at the mere mention of age and wrinkles, it is not beyond them to criticize women for the same. There is a reason why most women start to panic as they leave their twenties. The world around them suddenly becomes unkind and ageist.
Women have persistently been fraught with social expectations to look young and smart.
But with times, this obsession overlooking young has precipitated in the minds of lots of women, who consider getting old as a premonition. Womankind is afraid of up warding old. Their confidence takes a huge hit when people start commenting on how old they look. Most women feel their presence disintegrating in society, once they lose their youthful looks. This feeling of becoming irrelevant after a certain age stems from how people treat aging women.
Age may be just a number, but physical appearance is an as inseparable part of social identity. So, if they look old, people will make them feel old. In recent times, anti-aging treatments and procedures have given those who can afford, a way to bypass wrinkles and saggy skin. And, in turn further amplified the expectations as to how women should age.
Sadly, women face age shaming as much from each other as they do from men.
A smooth, supple skin, albeit artificial, is a matter of pride. However, those who choose to embrace their greys and wrinkles are shamed relentlessly. How are we supposed to expect men to empathize with us when ageism is not beyond us women? Youthful looks are a bone of contention among women in the same age group. I know womankind who resort to age embarrassment out of total insecurity. They forget that there is more to life than fretting overlooking young.
As some women on social media pointed out, not all women are lucky enough to grow old. By rejecting aging, we are rejecting nature’s way of telling us to value our lives. Wrinkles, crow lines and grey hair are battle scars from the arena of life. They signify years spent under the sun studying, working, raising a family, following a passion and growing as a human being. Why should we be ashamed of them? It is the insight that makes someone ugly or attractive. So, if people fail to see the life which led to those wrinkles, then they are at fault. Only individuals who accept their time of life know how small and valuable life is.
There’s an Irish proverb that says:
“Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.”